Ever question your self-worth? How do we even put a value on a human life? Our personal sense of value changes throughout life. Much of the determination is based upon what someone values about themselves and the world around them. As children we are given our sense of value with attention. Attention is the currency of love. Connected, unconditional attention holding the highest value. As we grow older our sense of value comes through achievement. However, we achieve in order to get the attention of others. Whether it’s material goods, social standing or any other achievement oriented activity in life attention remains the most accepted payment for value.

Yet, with this orientation in mind are we left to believe that our value is only as good as our latest effort? When do you suppose you will be good enough? The society we built was established on a transactional nature. I do this, I get that. You do this, you get that. Always looking to a future in order to feel self-worth. Hence, the term “the rat race.” A great system that supported humanity until this point, yet it could use some modifications. Health and wellness is often sacrificed in the chase for personal acknowledgement through achievement. This approach to life leaves an unfulfilled need at each destination point along the journey.

What do you think is meant by life is a journey, not a destination. Expand your awareness for just one moment. When we set goals, we aim energy and effort towards achievement. There are some in society that have grown a self-disciplined mental muscle which makes achievement much easier. Some are not. Good, bad, who knows. High achievers know that once you get started on the hunt for success it is very difficult to hop off that train. Dopamine is the molecule of more always upping the ante with each goal met. Raising the bar becomes the only choice, narrowing the view to the goal, missing the journey along the way. Not to mention encountering disease along the way.

When asked what surprised him most about humanity, he said: “Man. Because he sacrifices his health in order to make money. Then he sacrifices money to recuperate his health. And then he is so anxious about the future that he does not enjoy the present.” I believe him to be correct when considering my own relationship with achievement. Always looking ahead, missing the present which is the gift of life. It is this gift of being present with what is that we side step during the journey to a goal. By focusing on the present we can each begin practicing a novel way of existing in the world. By bringing curious attention to what the present moment offers, we can connect daily with our internal sense of value.

This approach relieves each of the need to experience external validation for our efforts. When we rely on external validation from others we become slaves to what we achieve. Without achievement there is no validation. However, when present with the moment one can focus unconditional love through consistent effort which enhances our self-belief. Self-belief or self-trust is developed on the journey not the destination. With each step taken in the direction of a goal, one begins trusting in the process knowing goal attainment is simply a by-product of daily effort.

Building self-worth is a journey deeply rooted in developing self-belief, and this belief is developed through the acknowledgement of consistent effort towards a process-oriented approach to life. When we shift our focus from purely achieving outcomes to embracing the daily process, we begin to recognize the value in our efforts, regardless of results. It's in these small, daily actions that we build a foundation of self-trust, knowing that we are capable of facing challenges and progressing, one step at a time.

Achievement then becomes a natural byproduct of this consistent effort. Instead of striving for external validation or the next big success, we start to see the value in the journey itself. Each day’s effort, no matter how small, adds to our self-belief. Over time, this accumulation of consistent action leads to a stronger sense of self-worth. We begin to understand that our value isn’t tied to the end goal but to the resilience and dedication we show in the process. Now that’s value based living. A transaction with the present moment. Best effort rewarded with self-trust.

This approach also frees us from the endless cycle of chasing external validation. When we’re process-oriented, we’re less concerned with others’ opinions and more focused on our own effort and growth. We start to see that true achievement is less about the accolades and more about the quiet confidence that comes from knowing we’ve put in the work. This shift in mindset allows us to appreciate our progress and find fulfillment in the everyday moments. The simple things in life. Like the fact that we have this playground called Earth we get to live on. What a gift!

By focusing on the process, we build a more sustainable sense of self-worth. The highs and lows of achievement become less extreme because we’re no longer riding the emotional roller coaster of success and failure. Instead, we find a steady sense of value in the consistent actions we take, which helps to create a more balanced and resilient mindset. This resilience, in turn, empowers us to take on new challenges with confidence, knowing that our self-worth isn’t at stake. If an outcome is not favorable, we can then examine the process we choose and make the necessary changes to enhance the next step in the journey.

In the end, developing self-belief through consistent effort towards a process-oriented approach allows us to live a more fulfilling life. Satisfied that we have committed to being our best in each moment bringing love to what we do. This makes love a practice expanding our awareness for what love truly is. We can begin to see ourselves through the loving eyes of the present moment where we are enough. We begin to see that our worth is inherent, not something that can be measured by external achievements. This realization brings a sense of peace and contentment, allowing us to enjoy the journey of life, knowing that each step we take is a testament to our strength and value. 

Learn to love every step of the journey of life and I promise you will attain all the success you could ever ask for. 

When will we learn? Buddha said all of life is suffering. What do you suppose he meant by this? I believe he meant that humanity has been on a cycle of suffering since we were created or fell out of the trees. Suffering is synonymous with existence. It is truly when we dig in and find out what we are capable of. Our ancestors lived a time unlike ours where survival was the priority. Suffering was different then. Judgment was a life or death necessity. Somehow with the power of our magnificent brains we were able to rise above becoming the dominant species on Earth. Was it all done to suffer or to prosper?

My life has been marvelous. Born of two Cuban immigrants, my brother and I were taught to appreciate the fruits of this great nation. Opportunity abounds given the circumstance they fled from. Their ultimate sacrifice, measured by all they left behind to provide us the greatest opportunity in life. Growing up with enough, we spent most of our time outside enjoying our freedom. Although suffering was evident around us, we focused on the beauty of just being. Like us, many others in our generation lived in a time of relative peace and safety foreign to our country these days. 

Over the past 50 years many changes have come about. The great times have given way to some of the most tumultuous times in America. Separated mainly by labels, as a society we are growing more apart than together. This division is reminiscent of the fall of empires of old, where internal fragmentation and the inability to unite under common values led to their decline.

Throughout history, the rise and fall of empires have often been marked by periods of unity followed by fragmentation. In modern times, the proliferation of labels either political, social, cultural or ideological have created divisiveness. When individuals and groups focus more on their differences than their commonalities, it can lead to social fragmentation, much like what has been seen in historical empires that eventually collapsed. 

In the attached article, it is described that the average empire’s life expectancy is 250 years. The US declared independence on July 4, 1776. By my calculations that brings us to 248 years. In just two years, our republic could be extinct like many other empires before us. Yet, intuitively I do not believe this to be true. If there is anything the history books have taught me is that when placed in a corner we are a people willing to unite under a common cause worth defending. 

Regardless, of your view of the freedoms we possess in this country I can assure you they are much greater than those seen in Cuba at the time of my parent’s migration. Not to mention the lack of freedom that exists today. Our republic was created under fire and suffering in the name of freedom. It is this very freedom that can be the common cause that unites us. The freedom to love ourselves by practicing health measures to restore our nation’s well-being. It all begins with a dream and culminates with the practice to heal from within. Within our internal borders we must find health in order to come together so that we may continue to enjoy freedom for generations to come. 

At the heart of this healing lies a multi-dimensional approach to health. True wellness is not a one-dimensional endeavor; it requires the integration of physical, mental, and spiritual health. This comprehensive approach operates under the concept of the aggregation of marginal gains. By making small, incremental improvements across various aspects of health dimensions, we can gradually lift our overall health and well-being.

Physical health is the foundation upon which we build our lives. By focusing on nutrient-dense foods, regular movement, and adequate rest, we lay the groundwork for a healthy body. But this is only the beginning. Mental health is equally important. Practices such as mindfulness, mindset mastery, and continuous learning help to keep our minds sharp and resilient. Spiritual health, often overlooked, provides us with a sense of purpose and connection to something greater than ourselves. It is through spiritual practices that we find the strength to endure and thrive. It is, in fact, spiritual health that afforded the Roman Empire their long 1,000 year existence. 

Breathwork is a powerful tool that ties these aspects together, helping us achieve a state of flow with life's events. By practicing controlled breathing techniques, we can reduce stress, increase our mental clarity, and enhance our emotional well-being. Breathwork allows us to tap into the parasympathetic nervous system, promoting relaxation and balance. This simple yet profound practice can be incorporated into our daily routine, acting as a bridge between our physical, mental, and spiritual health.

Character development is another crucial element of this multi-dimensional approach. Building strong character traits such as resilience, understanding, and integrity allow us the opportunity to take on life’s challenges. By cultivating these qualities, we can improve our relationships, make better decisions, and contribute positively to society. Character development involves continuous self-reflection and a commitment to personal growth, ensuring that we remain aligned with our values and purpose. 

By embracing this multi-dimensional approach, we can create healthy networks within society that come together to solve the differences between us. When we focus on improving our own health and well-being, we become more compassionate, understanding, and willing to collaborate with others. This, in turn, fosters a sense of community and unity, helping to bridge the divides that separate us.

The practice of mindfulness, coupled with breathwork, can also enhance our character development. Mindfulness encourages us to be present in the moment, aware of our thoughts and feelings without judgment. This heightened awareness allows us to respond to situations with greater clarity and compassion. When combined with breathwork, mindfulness can deepen our connection to ourselves and others, developing a sense of inner peace and harmony.

The aggregation of marginal gains emphasizes the importance of small, consistent efforts in all areas of our lives. By making incremental improvements in our physical health, mental well-being, spiritual practices, breathwork, and character development, we can achieve profound transformations over time. This holistic approach ensures that we are continually growing and evolving, becoming the best versions of ourselves.

Change begins with each of us. By prioritizing our health and well-being through a holistic approach, we can create a ripple effect that extends beyond our individual lives. This ripple can inspire others to embark on their own journeys of self-improvement, leading to a healthier, more united society. As we heal ourselves, we heal our communities, and ultimately, we heal our world. Let us embrace the challenge of change, embracing discomfort while working together to build a brighter, more connected future for all. 

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I get it. This all sounds great but what about the power hungry? How will we deal with them? Power to the People

The Lifespan of Empires.

http://dx.doi.org/10.1080/01615440.2011.577733

Are your thoughts on repeat? For many of us, not existing in flow, this is a known scientific fact. Scientists have determined that 95% of our thoughts are recycled from the previous day. Now the exact number may vary, yet it is safe to say the majority of our thoughts are recycled day to day. The idea that "95% of our thoughts today are the same as those we had yesterday" comes from the concept that much of our daily thinking and behavior is habitual and driven by subconscious patterns.

Yet, the feature of awareness can be used to amplify the parts of us we are not content with in order to promote change whenever necessary. Perhaps, that is simply 5-10% of thinking that allows us the freedom of choice. Choice to remain the same or shift towards a north star using our free will. There are a multitude of ways to live life. You can choose your way using this conscious action of will. Maybe, that is why it is referred to as will power. We each possess the power of change. At the drop of a hat we can shift our course towards a destiny unknown. Make sense?

With the mental health crisis on the rise a term is becoming more common. Cognitive dissonance is defined as the state of having inconsistent thoughts, beliefs, or attitudes, especially as relating to behavioral decisions and attitude change. Simply stated this refers to the mental discomfort or tension that arises when a person holds two or more conflicting beliefs, values, or attitudes simultaneously. An example would be ‘a human wants to be healthy, but doesn't exercise regularly or eat a nutritious diet.’ That human may feel guilty as a result. That guilt likely will drive unhealthy behaviors, yet guilt is a topic of tomorrow’s blog. Back to our regularly scheduled program. 

The information age has brought about many “revelations” yet it has also muddied the mental waters. Trust is at an all-time low given all of the conflicting information shared these days. Polarization has become the new standard of relating in society. With all the good that has come with the information age, we have also encountered the greatest separation experienced as a species. So many conflicting viewpoints, it's no wonder we struggle to establish a course of direction with our thinking capacity. That 5-10% ability is so confused it can’t alter the 95% of recycled thoughts. How is this impacting human ingenuity?

Human ingenuity is the ability to think creatively, originally, and cleverly, and to use that thinking to solve problems or invent new things. We are a culture of followers looking for guidance in this world moving at a frantic pace. Seeking connection in any and every possible way. Whether it is to a gender identity, political affiliation, race, ethnicity, religion, medical condition, sports team and insert any other of the thousands of labels available. Each of us simply wants to belong. Connect to something greater than ourselves. Paradoxically, we also want to honor the unique experience of being ourselves. What to do?

Take a deep breath with me now. Settle in as I share my mind with you. Labels have produced much of the hate with experience in life, yet much of the love we experience, too. Labels themselves are not the issue. They exist to express the human need for individuality. The need for freedom of choice reflects our desire for autonomy, self-expression, and control over our own lives, which allows us to pursue personal goals and meaning. It is the comfort of control as an individual that we seek here in an ever changing world. Here is where change causes friction. Uncertainty produces discomfort. Labels provide grounding for individual expression and perceived safety.

The paradox of belonging to something greater is what allowed us to survive as a species. Coming together was the only way! The gift of oxytocin, the love hormone, brought us together in community to fend off a perilous world. Well, for our ancestors who were the true “survivors.” In modern times, the need to belong drives us to conform, seek approval, and align with group norms, as social connections and acceptance are vital for survival and emotional well-being. All done for a dose of that love hormone. Oxytocin is associated with the inner feelings of contentment, trust, relaxation, reduced stress and anxiety and pain relief. All of these benefits from feeling a sense of belonging. 

The tension between the need to belong and the desire for freedom of choice is a fundamental aspect of the human experience. On one hand, we yearn to be part of something larger than ourselves—a tribe, a community, a cause. This connection provides us with a sense of identity, security, and shared purpose. It fulfills our deep-seated need for social bonds, which are crucial for our emotional well-being and survival. Yet, on the other hand, we also crave autonomy and the freedom to chart our own course. The ability to make our own choices, express our individuality, and pursue personal goals is central to our sense of self and fulfillment.

In this delicate balance, the role of leaders becomes pivotal. Just as journeymen of the past traveled from village to village, sharing their knowledge, experiences, and stories, modern leaders must act as guides, bridging the gap between individuality and collective belonging. They must recognize the unique strengths and perspectives of each individual while fostering a sense of unity and shared purpose within the tribe. By doing so, they can help us navigate the complexities of the modern world, where the rapid pace of change often leaves us feeling disconnected and disoriented.

As we move forward in this new era, the concept of tribes must evolve. We need to create communities that honor both the collective and the individual. Tribes that are not just about conformity but also about celebrating diversity and encouraging personal growth. These modern tribes should be spaces where people can come together to share their experiences, challenges, and insights, supporting one another on their journeys while also respecting each person's unique path. In such a tribe, leaders serve not as authoritarian figures but as facilitators, helping to cultivate an environment where everyone can thrive.

Ultimately, the key to thriving in this new way of being is to embrace the paradox of belonging and individuality. By finding a tribe that resonates with our values and aspirations, we can experience the deep sense of connection and support that comes from being part of something greater. At the same time, by nurturing our own individuality and making conscious choices that align with our true selves, we can maintain the freedom and autonomy that are essential for our personal growth and fulfillment. In this way, we can create a world where both belonging and freedom coexist harmoniously, allowing us to live more meaningful and fulfilling lives.

How are we going to deal with power in an uncertain future? Power has become synonymous with money in modern society. Reminds me of the main character in the movie Scarface, who said “first you get the money, then you get the power, then you get the woman.” The movie depicts the rise and fall of a Cuban immigrant arriving in the US in the 1980’s. An example of how power corrupts the human mind. A modern day example of a problem plaguing humanity since the dawn of time.

The rise and fall of empires have always been closely tied to their management of power and resources. The Egyptians, Greeks, and Romans each offer valuable lessons in how societies can flourish or decline based on their governance, economic systems, and social structures. In the present day, as we face unprecedented challenges, we can draw parallels to these ancient civilizations and explore modern solutions such as cryptocurrency to address current issues, such as the dilution of the dollar. Furthermore, integrating multidimensional health programs across the United States can create connections and improve well-being, helping to prevent the power struggles that often lead to societal decline.

The ancient Egyptians, known for their remarkable achievements in architecture, art, and governance, sustained a powerful empire for millennia. Their centralized power structure, underpinned by a strong belief in divine kingship, allowed them to build monumental structures like the pyramids and maintain a stable society. However, this same centralized power eventually became a weakness, as it led to rigid social hierarchies and an inability to adapt to changing circumstances. When external pressures and internal strife grew, the once mighty empire began to crumble.

The Greeks, with their city-states like Athens and Sparta, showcased a different approach to power. Their emphasis on democracy, philosophy, and the arts fostered a vibrant and innovative society. However, the Greeks were also prone to infighting and political instability, which ultimately weakened their ability to resist external threats. The Peloponnesian War between Athens and Sparta is a prime example of how internal power struggles can lead to the downfall of even the most advanced civilizations.

The Romans, known for their extensive empire and sophisticated governance, managed to maintain power for centuries through a combination of military might, legal innovation, and cultural integration. The Roman Empire's ability to incorporate diverse peoples and cultures into a cohesive society was key to its longevity. Yet, like the Egyptians and Greeks before them, the Romans eventually succumbed to internal corruption, economic troubles, and external invasions. The dilution of currency and economic mismanagement played significant roles in their decline.

In modern times, the United States and other global powers face challenges that echo those of ancient empires. One significant issue is the dilution of the dollar as the world currency. As the Federal Reserve prints more money to address economic challenges, the value of the dollar diminishes, leading to inflation and economic instability. This situation bears resemblance to the Roman Empire's economic troubles when debasement of currency eroded trust and value.

Cryptocurrency offers a potential solution to this problem by providing a decentralized and transparent financial system. 

Unlike traditional currencies, cryptocurrencies like Bitcoin and Ethereum are not subject to the whims of central banks or governments. Their value is determined by supply and demand, and transactions are recorded on a blockchain, ensuring transparency and security. By adopting cryptocurrency as a check and balance, we can mitigate the risk of currency dilution and create a more stable economic system.

Moreover, cryptocurrency's decentralized nature can reduce the risk of power struggles that often plague centralized systems. By distributing economic power more evenly, we can prevent the concentration of wealth and influence that leads to societal imbalances. This approach aligns with the lessons learned from the fall of ancient empires, where centralized power structures became liabilities over time.

In addition to economic reforms, we must also focus on multi-dimensional health programs to foster a more connected and resilient society. The Egyptians, Greeks, and Romans all placed significant emphasis on physical health, education, and community well-being. By integrating these principles into modern health programs, we can address physical, mental, and spiritual health holistically. This approach not only improves individual well-being but also strengthens social cohesion and reduces the likelihood of power struggles.

For example, incorporating practices like mindfulness, meditation, and physical fitness into community programs can enhance mental and emotional resilience. By promoting nutrient-dense diets and regular physical activity, we can address the root causes of many modern health issues, such as obesity and chronic disease. Adopting holistic measures nationally can eliminate the current healthcare crisis. Considering these holistic measures can resolve 90-95% of chronic disease. It is chronic disease treatment that has the highest price tag in our national budget.

As we implement these multi-dimensional health programs, we create a society that is not only healthier but also more united. When individuals feel connected to their communities and have access to resources that support their well-being, they are less likely to succumb to the divisive forces that lead to power struggles. Instead, they are more inclined to collaborate and work towards common goals, much like the Romans did during their periods of stability and growth.

In conclusion, the lessons from the rise and fall of ancient empires such as the Egyptians, Greeks, and Romans provide valuable insights into the management of power and resources.

By addressing modern challenges like the dilution of the dollar with innovative solutions like cryptocurrency, we can create a more stable and equitable economic system. Furthermore, by embracing multi-dimensional health programs, we can foster a more connected and resilient society, reducing the risk of power struggles and promoting overall well-being. Let us learn from history and build a future where economic stability and holistic health are the foundations of a thriving society.

What works better for you? Receiving good vibes or bad vibes from another? Despite the recent emergence of the term toxic positivity, I believe most would answer good vibes. Good vibes are synonymous with good times. In sport and in life, it is favorable to approach every situation with good vibes. Yet, what does that exactly mean? How is it that we interpret vibes anyway? 

Human communication is largely non-verbal. It's estimated that 60% to 93% of communication is conveyed through non-verbal means. This includes body language, facial expressions, gestures, posture, eye contact, tone of voice, and other physical cues. The exact percentage can vary depending on the context and the type of communication, but the consensus is that a significant portion of what we communicate is not spoken but rather expressed through our actions and behaviors. 

For example, psychologist Albert Mehrabian's research suggested that in conveying feelings and attitudes, 55% of communication is through facial expressions, 38% is through tone of voice, and only 7% is through the actual words spoken. While these specific percentages may not apply to all situations, they highlight the importance of non-verbal elements in human interaction. Yet, could vibes also mean vibrations?

Humans do indeed generate and interact with bioelectromagnetic fields, and these fields can be thought of as "vibrations" or oscillations in a broad sense. The concept of "vibrations" is often used metaphorically to describe the energy or emotional state that a person emits, which can influence others. Scientifically, this idea can be linked to measurable bioelectromagnetic fields that our bodies produce.

Humans do possess a bioelectromagnetic field, often referred to as an electromagnetic or energy field. This field is generated by the electrical activity of our cells, tissues, and organs, particularly the heart and brain. It is believed that this bioelectromagnetic field can play a role in non-verbal communication and interactions between individuals. I came to fully understand this concept when I became a HeartMath instructor. 

The HeartMath Institute has conducted extensive research on the heart's electromagnetic field and its potential role in human communication. One of their key findings is that the heart generates the largest electromagnetic field in the body. This field can be measured several feet away from the body using sensitive instruments. The heart's electromagnetic field is not only powerful but also dynamic, changing in response to different emotional states. 

At QHP, we utilize heart rate variability (HRV) as a marker of health. HRV refers to the variation in time intervals between successive heartbeats. It is a valuable biomarker because it reflects the heart’s ability to adapt to varying physiological and environmental conditions, providing insights into the balance between the sympathetic and parasympathetic nervous systems. High HRV typically indicates a robust autonomic nervous system, good emotional regulation, and effective stress management, while low HRV can signify chronic stress, poor emotional regulation, or health issues. By measuring HRV, individuals can gain a deeper understanding of their overall health, stress levels, and resilience, making it a crucial tool for optimizing well-being and performance.

Interestingly, I have been on both sides of the HRV coin. My experience dictates when I am living with authenticity and purpose my HRV rises. My environment typically reflects a symbiosis with others. I believe my bioelectromagnetic field expands. When attempting to force life to happen or living attempting to please others my HRV drops. My tendency is to isolate. My bioelectromagnetic field contracts. HRV is an excellent measure of the balance between the sympathetic and parasympathetic nervous system. 

This direct correlation between HRV and our emotional and environmental interactions demonstrates the profound influence our internal states have on our well-being. When we are in flow and engaged authentically with the world, our bioelectromagnetic field, and consequently our HRV, reflect this harmony. This alignment fosters a positive flow of energy, enhancing our emotional resilience and overall health. Conversely, when we are out of sync, our field contracts, signaling stress and disconnection.

Understanding the impact of our emotional states on HRV can guide us towards more effective self-regulation strategies. Practices such as mindfulness, meditation, and emotional awareness can help improve HRV by promoting balance and reducing stress. By focusing on these practices, we can foster a more positive and expansive bioelectromagnetic field, leading to better health outcomes and more fulfilling interpersonal connections.

The concept of good vibes and the associated vibrations we emit can be seen as an extension of our HRV. When our HRV is high, we are likely radiating positive energy that others can sense and respond to. This creates a reinforcing cycle where positive interactions and high HRV support each other, enhancing our overall well-being and the quality of our relationships.

In practical terms, maintaining a high HRV and positive bioelectromagnetic field requires conscious effort and self-awareness. Integrating practices that support emotional regulation, such as regular exercise, balanced nutrition, and adequate sleep, can contribute to a healthier HRV. Additionally, nurturing authentic connections and staying true to one's values can help sustain a positive emotional state and a vibrant bioelectromagnetic field.

Ultimately, the journey towards a healthier HRV and a more expansive bioelectromagnetic field is a personal one, reflecting our unique experiences and choices. By recognizing the interplay between our emotional states, HRV, and the energy we emit, we can take proactive steps to enhance our well-being and foster more meaningful connections with others. The pursuit of this balance is a testament to the power of integrating mind, body, and spirit in the quest for holistic health.

Embrace the knowledge that our internal states and emotional well-being have tangible effects on our health and relationships. By prioritizing practices that enhance HRV and foster positive vibrations, we can cultivate a more resilient and harmonious existence, both for ourselves and those around us. In doing so, we contribute to a more connected and thriving community, where the ripple effects of our positive energy extend far beyond our individual lives.

What is the thing called ego? We all have one. Where did it come from? Why does it matter? Was ego a thing for our distant ancestors? So many questions revolve around this concept of ego. Turning to science for an explanation renders a model which is self-created. In the beginning, there is just curiosity and wonder for a novel world. As we continue our interaction with our environment a “me” begins to develop between 2-4 years of age. This “me” is a product of a dance with our environment. This “me’ is unique and different from any other “me” that ever existed. 

Interestingly, this “me” is just a set of learned habits of action or thoughts that consolidate into a personality. This ego grows with us into an internal voice that walks alongside us at all times. Perhaps, it is our imaginary friend at first which eventually gains permanent residency within us. Once established this “me” is who we bounce the world off of. Everything happening in the outer world is met by this internal spiritual being. At times, ego can be like a coach encouraging us along or it can be quite the slandering critic. 

I call this “me” a spiritual being because it has no material existence. It simply judges life. Ego judges life based upon past experiences. Yet, ego can create scenarios on demand for anything that happens in life. These scenarios can take us on quite the mental ride. The stories it creates are just that–stories. NOT FACTS. I can’t tell you how many times my mind has raced to a place of anguish over life events. You see we all possess two major cognitive biases. The negativity and confirmation biases.

Cognitive bias is a systematic thought process caused by the tendency of the human brain to simplify information processing through a filter of personal experience and preferences. Basically, a brain shortcut developed by our life experience. The filtering process is a coping mechanism that enables the brain to prioritize and process large amounts of information quickly. The confirmation bias is the tendency to interpret new evidence as confirmation of one's existing beliefs or theories. While the negativity bias is our tendency to notice the negative in a life event more readily while also dwelling on these events.

Cognitive biases are responsible for creating our blindspots in life. By going with the scenarios created by the mind, we eliminate other possibilities. It is estimated that 80% of a typical humans thoughts are negatively oriented. While 95% of thoughts are recycled from the previous day. This sets up a habit of negative thinking. Worse case scenarios were necessary for our ancestors because they potentially saved lives. In modern times, these scenarios protect us mainly from emotional pain. Either way it is the mind’s way of protecting us. Yet, at times it causes more pain due to ruminant thinking. What to do?

As mentioned above, many of the scenarios created by the ego mind are not accurate. Just worse case scenarios. With this reasoning in mind, consider utilizing a process to manage ruminant thinking. Journaling and mindfulness can serve as a very useful way of managing ruminant thinking. Remember a process is a series of actions you take to achieve a desired outcome. In this case, you want to limit ruminant thinking. With negativity and confirmation bias in mind, ruminant thinking is very energy consuming without accurate results most of the time. By increasing your ability to be present with what is, you can ground yourself in the moment with a more open mind. This can bring in other possibilities expanding awareness and easing ruminant thinking. 

Journaling serves as an excellent tool by allowing one to “dump” the circular thoughts onto paper. Reflecting on your written words may help to lessen the emotional wind up bringing about a more rational look at the event. Now here’s where neuroscience explains how this can be such an effective tool. When we are highly emotional over a life event the threat detection system in the brain comes online. It is from this space that many of the negatively oriented story lines arise. By writing your experience onto paper or digital display you can lessen the emotional energy reducing the threatening thoughts. 

With less energy heading in the direction of threat the brain begins to reallocate resources towards the rational networks. Without threat one can bring different scenarios into awareness. Rather than perpetuating a negative storyline, you can open your mind to other possibilities more likely inclusive of a silver lining which can silence the ruminant thought. Here’s the thing…ruminant thoughts are the rabbit holes of the mind. Consuming endless energy removing us from the gift of the present moment. The present moment where the lesson of the event exists.

As Gandhi's words remind us, "When the ego dies, the soul awakes." This awakening is an invitation to move beyond the limitations of our egoic mind and into a state of greater awareness and presence. The ego, with its constant chatter and judgment, often keeps us trapped in a cycle of ruminant thinking and emotional turmoil. By recognizing the ego's role in creating these mental loops, we can begin to disengage from its influence and tap into a deeper sense of self that transcends the habitual narratives we carry.

This journey toward awakening requires a conscious effort to cultivate mindfulness and self-awareness. It involves observing our thoughts without attachment, understanding that they are merely constructs of the mind rather than absolute truths. By practicing mindfulness, we create a space between our thoughts and our reactions, allowing us to choose a more measured and compassionate response to life's challenges. This practice not only alleviates the stress and anxiety caused by ruminant thinking but also opens the door to new perspectives and possibilities.

Embracing the present moment is a powerful antidote to the ego's tendency to dwell on the past or worry about the future. When we ground ourselves in the here and now, we align with the flow of life, allowing us to experience it more fully and authentically. This alignment can lead to a state of flow, where we are deeply engaged in the present, and our actions flow effortlessly from a place of inner clarity and purpose. In this state, the ego's grip loosens, and we can access a deeper, more intuitive wisdom that guides us toward growth and fulfillment.

Journaling is another valuable tool in this process of self-discovery and emotional regulation. By putting our thoughts and feelings into words, we externalize the internal dialogue, making it more tangible and easier to analyze. This act of writing can be incredibly cathartic, helping to release pent-up emotions and clarify our thoughts. It also serves as a record of our inner journey, providing insights into our patterns and triggers. Over time, this practice can help us develop greater self-compassion and understanding, fostering a more balanced and resilient mindset.

Neuroscientific research supports the effectiveness of these practices. When we engage in mindfulness or journaling, we activate the brain's prefrontal cortex, which is associated with rational thinking and emotional regulation. This activation helps to calm the amygdala, the brain's threat detection center, reducing the intensity of negative emotions and the frequency of ruminant thoughts. By shifting the brain's focus from fear and negativity to curiosity and openness, we can create a more positive and empowering mental landscape.

Ultimately, the journey toward awakening the soul involves a continual process of letting go of the ego's dominance and embracing a more expansive and compassionate view of ourselves and the world. It is about cultivating a mindset that sees challenges as opportunities for growth rather than threats to our identity. By doing so, we can transform our lives from a constant struggle for validation and control into a joyful exploration of life's infinite possibilities.

The understanding of the ego is not an end but a beginning—a gateway to a deeper, more meaningful existence. It is an invitation to live with greater authenticity, presence, and love. As we embark on this journey, let’s remember that the path to awakening to this part of us is not a linear one; it is a dance of continuous growth and self-discovery. By embracing the tools and practices that support our inner journey, we can awaken to our true potential and live a life that is rich with purpose and connection.

Cyclic hyperventilation breathing, gaining recent attention with practices like the Wim Hof Method, has its origins rooted in ancient breathing techniques. These practices have been used for centuries in various cultures to alter states of consciousness, enhance physical and mental endurance, and promote overall well-being. In recent years, cyclic hyperventilation has gained popularity due to its purported benefits in enhancing emotional regulation, boosting immune response, and fostering resilience. But what exactly is cyclic hyperventilation breathing, and how does it impact our health?

The technique involves a series of deep, rapid breaths followed by a period of breath-holding. This cyclic pattern of breathing intentionally hyperventilates the body, which lowers carbon dioxide (CO2) levels in the blood while temporarily increasing oxygen saturation. The process is often followed by a phase of breath retention, where the practitioner holds their breath for as long as comfortable. This cycle is repeated several times, typically during meditation or a focused breathing session.

One of the primary benefits of cyclic hyperventilation breathing is its profound impact on emotional regulation. By deliberately altering the balance of oxygen and carbon dioxide in the body, this technique can influence the autonomic nervous system, which regulates our fight-or-flight response. During the breath-holding phase, the body is exposed to mild stress, which paradoxically helps train the nervous system to better handle stress. Over time, this practice can lead to improved emotional resilience, allowing individuals to respond to stressors with greater calmness and control.

Cyclic hyperventilation breathing also has a significant effect on the immune system. Research suggests that this practice can enhance the body's immune response by reducing inflammation and increasing the production of certain immune cells. The hyperventilation phase triggers a stress response that releases adrenaline, a hormone that temporarily boosts the immune system's activity. This heightened immune response can help the body fend off infections and diseases, making it a valuable tool for maintaining overall health.

However, while cyclic hyperventilation breathing offers numerous benefits, it is not without risks. One of the primary concerns is the potential for hyperventilation-induced alkalosis, a condition where the blood becomes too alkaline due to a rapid decrease in CO2 levels. This can lead to symptoms such as dizziness, tingling in the extremities, and, in extreme cases, loss of consciousness. Additionally, individuals with certain medical conditions, such as heart disease or epilepsy, should exercise caution or avoid this practice altogether, as the induced stress response may exacerbate their conditions.

Despite these risks, cyclic hyperventilation breathing has gained a reputation for its ability to enhance resilience. The controlled exposure to stress that this practice provides helps build mental and physical toughness. By regularly engaging in cyclic hyperventilation, practitioners may find themselves better equipped to handle life's challenges, both big and small. This resilience extends beyond the emotional realm, as the practice also promotes physical endurance and recovery, making it a popular choice among athletes and individuals seeking to improve their overall performance.

One of the key mechanisms behind the benefits of cyclic hyperventilation breathing is its impact on the brain. During the hyperventilation phase, the brain experiences a temporary reduction in blood flow due to the constriction of blood vessels. This mild hypoxia, or low oxygen state, can lead to the release of endorphins, the body's natural painkillers, and feel-good hormones. The combination of endorphins and adrenaline during this practice creates a powerful sense of well-being and mental clarity, contributing to the emotional regulation benefits.

The breath-holding phase of cyclic hyperventilation also plays a crucial role in enhancing emotional and physical resilience. When holding the breath after hyperventilating, the body gradually increases CO2 levels, which can activate the parasympathetic nervous system, responsible for rest and relaxation. This shift from a stressed to a relaxed state helps train the body to recover more quickly from stress, promoting a balanced nervous system and reducing the long-term impact of stress on the body.

Another aspect of cyclic hyperventilation breathing is its ability to improve focus and mental clarity. By engaging in this practice, individuals can experience a heightened state of awareness and concentration, which can be beneficial in both personal and professional settings. The practice encourages mindfulness by drawing attention to the breath and body, helping to quiet the mind and reduce distractions. This enhanced focus can lead to better decision-making and problem-solving skills, further contributing to resilience.

Cyclic hyperventilation breathing also has a profound impact on the body's energy levels. The influx of oxygen during the hyperventilation phase can boost cellular metabolism, providing the body with more energy to perform daily tasks. This increase in energy can be particularly beneficial for those who experience fatigue or low energy levels, as it provides a natural and sustainable way to recharge the body without relying on stimulants like caffeine.

In conclusion, cyclic hyperventilation breathing is a powerful tool for enhancing emotional regulation, boosting immune response, and building resilience. Its origins in ancient practices have been validated by modern science, highlighting its potential to improve overall well-being. However, like any powerful tool, it should be used with caution, especially by individuals with pre-existing medical conditions. When practiced mindfully and responsibly, cyclic hyperventilation breathing can be a transformative practice, offering a pathway to greater health, resilience, and emotional balance.

Awareness is the greatest human gift of all. Awareness affords each of us the ability to assess what is going on in our lives. Awareness brings into view the sensory experience of life. Awareness gives us the ability to judge our circumstances allowing us to chart a course in life. However, awareness is different at different times in life. For example, when your ego experiences a sense of threat your awareness shifts to a more guarded place funneling actionable choices. It’s a paradox. In the most extreme cases, the greater the stress, the less mental choices available. Hence the limiting options to fight, flight, freeze or fawn.

As we develop our personality, we begin to condition our nervous system to those around us. If stress is a prominent feature then your ability to identify stress is amplified. Hence, you can become ‘jumpy’ or ‘on edge’ around certain people. Conversely, when you are in an environment where peace, love, kindness and community are the precedent there is an acclimation of the nervous system to a differing attunement. Easy going or relaxed bringing peace to the body allowing for an environment of recovery from the agitation. This is why it is so important to understand how much your environment dictates your behavior. 

Utilizing awareness then becomes a superpower that can help you diagnose your body’s needs. However, given the fact that humans are so adaptive, one can begin to feel the trigger for agitation is different for different people based on their respective environment. If arguments are constant, especially the I am kidding playful (not really kidding) kind, one can acclimate to this by way of neuroplasticity. The initial sting of exposure of argumentative behavior lessens over time giving rise to a normalcy, or equilibration, experienced in the relationship. There is a great benefit to this feature of the nervous system outwardly. Will power increases significantly to argumentative behavior reducing the triggering effect on the nervous system. 

The brain is always looking to create efficiencies within the nervous system to reduce energy consumption. The means of imperceptible acclimation is a cardinal feature of the adaptation process. The body’s response to bring balance between the inner and outer worlds. Again the same holds true when the environment is peaceful. There is an acclimation of vibratory sense that breeds recovery within. Awareness becomes a powerful ally to the nervous system in this setting. Releasing the agitation of one environment into the community of peace allows the dissolution of the threat sensed by the ego, even when imperceptible. However, when within perception the release can be profound. 

In those moments of ego release, I have come to understand the patterns of my life. The yin and yang as described in yogic philosophy. My need for achievement coming from a place of need for outward recognition and external validation. The lack of sensed love at some point in my youth propelling me in the direction of pursuit. The benefit was the development of an extreme discipline and future thinking primed for goal achievement. The downside, an accompanying anxiety imperceptible to me, yet palpable to many around me. Consistently experiencing a need to pursue something new to feel a sense of satisfaction in life. Coincidently, a dopamine rich existence.

In March of 2022, this way of being came to a crashing halt. I began to realize these patterns of behavior through enhanced awareness challenging me to my core. The serpent that lie dormant in me, coming to life, bringing forth wrath onto my existence. The double edged sword of achievement striking with its penetrating fangs. The sting of the poisonous choices to ease the anxiety of wanting more become painfully apparent. The ability to slow down long enough to assess this major blind spot I couldn’t see. Awareness was the magnifying glass I needed to start a new path towards self-acceptance, understanding and love.

There’s nothing wrong with a life of pursuit. As a matter of fact, it is why we seek purpose and meaning in life. It is why we were given dopamine and the receptors it binds to. To seek that which we most want with our hearts. Paradoxically, there is a radical peace found in pursuit of excellence. Yet, the cognitive bias of overgeneralization prevents us from viewing this causing many of us to swing like a pendulum away from this absolute truth. It is this concept that I have chosen to explore profoundly for the remainder of my life. It is the elusive flow experience. 

Having now charted my course towards flow, I am invigorated by my environment. I am happier than ever with a sense of internal peace never encountered. This is a brand new sea for me. Serene and peaceful despite any attempts of inclement weather in my periphery. My environment has become my greatest teacher with pain as the greatest lesson. Through pain and anguish a new image is forming. Like metal forging in the fire beaten into shape I am rising anew. Awareness has become my shield with peace, understanding and acceptance as my sword. 

Awareness is the key to freedom. The answers to your life’s deepest questions lie within your ability to understand yourself on this level of consciousness. This level of awareness. Otherwise, you are simply ‘acting out’ old patterns of behaviors which were handed to you by your environment. The deepest ingrained behaviors by those you were most intimate with in early life when neuroplasticity flourishes. Ever say I will never be like my parents? Well, this is why it is an unavoidable fact for many of us. Awakening to the fact that we are each a series of ‘programmed’ behaviors dictated by our environment is the foundation for my work with clients. 

Unhinging them from this way of being frees valuable resources to pursue purpose when acclimation to purpose has occurred and ultimate achievement met. It is in the moments of extreme personal achievement that one can approximate the sense of distress associated with the paradox of achievement. Just ask many of the Olympic gold medal winners of the past. Three-time Olympic gold medalist Shaun White has described feeling a dramatic emptiness after every Olympics, win or lose, and experiencing feelings of isolation and aimlessness. Even Michael Phelps, the most decorated Olympian of all time, has spoken about experiencing severe post-Olympic depression. 

The silver lining in this story lies within each of us. Pursuit and achievement are undoubtedly a fuel for life. Learning to moderate the dopamine rush with recovery strategies can lessen the blow felt post achievement. However, even more important is the understanding that achievement is a choice and a gift we are all granted to pursue. It is not a requirement to quench a need to change what is already whole and complete. Any championship coach or athlete, especially at the highest levels, can attest that the journey is truly much more valuable than the destination. The ephemeral nature of achievement is simply a consequence of the minute by minute, hour by hour and day by day choices we each make on the way to becoming our best possible version. 

Anger is a basic human emotion that can range from mild irritation to intense rage. In the brain, much like any other emotion represented by a brain network. The more one angers the easier it becomes to be angry. Through the process of neuroplasticity reorganization of nerve communication any skill, thought process or behavior can be reinforced. This can happen between parties however it is in the internal environment where true reinforcement of circuitry occurs. 

Anger itself is a very useful emotion. Anger acts as a natural protective mechanism. When you perceive a threat, injustice, or violation of your boundaries, anger can mobilize your body and mind to take action. This response can help you defend yourself or others, assert your rights, and ensure that your needs are met. In this way, anger serves as a signal that something is wrong and needs to be addressed.

Anger can be a powerful motivator for change, both on a personal and societal level. It often drives individuals to confront difficult situations, challenge injustices, and pursue goals with greater intensity. Social movements and reforms have often been fueled by collective anger, which compels people to demand better conditions and fight for their rights. On a personal level, anger can motivate someone to leave an unhealthy relationship, change destructive habits, or improve their circumstances.

With all the potential good anger contains there is a shadow side. This shadow presents itself copiously in today’s society. Labels within the US are tearing us apart. Polarization is at the mecca of most societal anger. The persistent barrage of inputs from media outlets is the primary cause. With each individual finding their “camp” of confirmation bias providing countless details as to why a particular viewpoint is correct. Take nutrition for instance. There are so many approaches with each group experiencing the firmest of beliefs.

To complicate matters, confirmation bias now streams readily on social media outlets such as Instagram, Tik Tok, Youtube and many others. What we watch most often is reinforced with the desire to keep the user on the platform. By reinforcing a message, the thought can ultimately enter a person’s belief system. Once a belief it is very difficult to consider a differing perspective. This sets up a recipe for much of the spirited disagreements we see in the health and wellness space. 

When one is poised to remain focused on a particular view this is when potential blindspots develop. Through the process of neuroplasticity the brain attempts to create shortcuts in thinking in order to conserve precious energy. These blind spots create a greater degree of separation resulting from a lack of available options for more expansive thinking on a particular subject. Through continuous exposure propagated by media outlets the process is plastered in leaving no room for healthy discussions on polarizing issues. 

The continuous polarization begins to create feelings within evoking emotions that simply fortify the belief. When anger is then applied to the belief all rational thought is lost due to the threat detected by the amygdala. This induces a fight or flight response. Within a home this can present itself as a disagreement. Depending on the intensity of belief and the tendency towards angering escalation can occur producing a divide difficult to navigate. 

Typically, one party must act as the fawn accepting the stronger belief in order to bring resolution to a discussion without apparent solution. The domineering personality wins reinforcing the viewpoint while the fawning party holds the energy within, possibly producing resentment. It is critical to understand the need for a remedy to prevent this from occurring. The agreement to table the discussion comes to mind while both parties enter the recovery process. 

Recovery can come from a 10 minute walk, a shower, breath work or many other strategies aimed at increasing parasympathetic nervous system engagement. In doing so, the threat detection system is disarmed allowing the parties to redirect resources in the brain to a more rational view of the subject. This can help mend the difference experienced. Conversely, if anger is allowed to remain then toxicity becomes the nature of the relationship breeding hate. 

When anger is left unchecked, it can lead to a cycle of escalating emotions and entrenched hostility, both within ourselves and in our relationships. This unchecked anger can erode trust, breed resentment, and create a toxic environment where open communication and understanding are no longer possible. Over time, the habitual expression of anger can damage relationships, erode mental health, and even lead to physical health problems due to the constant state of stress and tension in the body.

Therefore, it is crucial to develop strategies to manage anger constructively. This involves recognizing when anger arises, understanding its triggers, and consciously choosing how to respond rather than react. By fostering self-awareness and practicing emotional regulation techniques, such as mindfulness, deep breathing, and reflective listening, we can transform anger from a destructive force into a powerful tool for positive change and personal growth. In this way, we can break free from the cycle of habitual anger and create healthier, more fulfilling relationships and a more peaceful inner life.

The time is now. How can we begin bridging the distance between us. Within the same room families are untethering. Is it those damn phones to blame? Is it the constant consumption of media? Or is it the age old generational issue of resistance that continues to surface? I believe it to be a collection of all of it. Genetically, humans are ALL 99.9% the same. Yet, the need to belong to something greater than ourselves can have such a gravitational pull. It’s either become greater as a result of what we collect or become greater as a result of a collective way of being.

In this society of “I”, we are faced with a major conundrum. Are we to continue to rotate as independent planetary bodies collecting matter or will we find something spiritually greater. The experiment of collecting matter to matter has been ongoing for millenia. Civilization after civilization, humans have collected riches from far and wide only to exit stage left with empty hands. Alexander the Great’s example details this best. 

Alexander actually had three wishes at the time of his death based upon three lessons he had learned during his life. First, that his physicians be the only ones to carry his casket to show the world no one can stop death. Second, he asked that the streets of the procession be lined with all of the riches he collected to demonstrate we cannot take riches with us. Lastly, he asked that his hands be left outside of the casket to show we come into the world empty handed and leave in the same way.  

I experienced my own wanting to matter by obtaining matter in life. Raised in a humble setting I was taught the value of hard work. The prize for hard work would be the acquisition of material possessions. The luxuries of life. A very nice house. A nice car. New clothes. Happiness bought. Yet, it was one of the most miserable times in my life. When the financial crisis of 2008 hit all that I had collected was gone. In one failed swoop I had no money, no wife and children living in another home. All that time spent collecting had rendered emptiness. A paradox found. Unfortunately, I did not learn the lesson then. 

I went back to hard work as my process to achieve. This time approaching it with anger and frustration as the fuel for my journey back up the ladder. What I realize now is that desire to achieve is an unquenchable thirst. There exists a network in the brain for achievement. Let’s call it the “pursuit” network. The primary fuel for this network is dopamine, AKA the molecule of more. This is crucial to comprehend. All humans are wired to want more than they like. Scientists have determined that the wanting networks compared to the liking networks in the brain are very disproportionate at a 9:1 ratio. Meaning we fancy the chase much more than possession.

We all have adaptation to blame for this. The double edged sword or paradox of survival if you will. Adaptation to change is what allowed us to survive yet adaptation to material goods begs the novelty of better and bigger goods to feel pleasure. How it works is a steady dose of dopamine is gifted to use each day. A baseline amount for a balanced life. When we pursue we are gifted more dopamine. However, the cells responsible for that extra boost are left emptier of the substances needed to make dopamine. The price is the feeling of emptiness felt temporarily after that which we pursue is achieved. 

If you have ever purchased anything and felt down or perhaps questioned the purchase, this is the root cause of the feeling. This is also known as buyer’s remorse. The anticipation of purchase drives dopamine levels up. The subsequent crash in dopamine levels leaves behind a residual pain to counter the pleasure experienced with the purchase. It is this drive to feel the sensation of dopamine coursing through our veins that is the root cause of addiction. Ever ask a cocaine addict what is felt when the supply is done? Most often the initial thought is how can I get more. 

Granted cocaine, amphetamine and methamphetamine seem to yield the greatest amounts of dopamine. However, to a much lesser degree, nicotine, shopping, playing video games, scrolling social media, sex and food all cause a rise in dopamine. If not moderated all of these behaviors can result in addiction. Consider moderation as a see-saw. Pleasure sits on one end and pain sits on the other. High swings are so typical in society today. Yet, not very many people want to face the pain of recovery. The admission of the escalation of commitment towards a course of pleasure seeking behaviors. 

The escalation of commitment is defined as a human behavior pattern that describes when someone continues to invest in a decision or action despite negative outcomes. This also coincides with the definition of addiction whereby the drug user continues use despite potential harm or negative outcomes. How does this happen? Enter confirmation bias. A cognitive distortion which implies humans will search for evidence that confirms what they believe rather than seek out other possibilities. The egoic brain or analytical mind utilizes this shortcut to prevent the use of more energy in the decision making process. Hence, these energetic shortcuts create a human blind spot. Makes me think of the character Golom in Lord of the Rings. 

On the subject of energy. Consider the see-saw mentioned before to represent a sine wave. A sine wave is a geometric pattern that is usually represented by a wave-like pattern traveling up and down. The wider the wave the lower the frequency of the wave. The narrower the wave the higher the frequency. Wait, why did I just go geometry on you? Stay with me. I promise to close the loop. Emotions are experienced in waves. We tend to prefer the emotions and feelings when they are on the rise in life. Emotions like joy, contentment, peace, excitement, admiration and acceptance all give rise to an enjoyable feeling in the body. While emotions like anger, frustration, disgust, shame and guilt all leave behind a disruptive inner feeling. 

Interestingly, humans learn best when experiencing those not so nice emotions and feelings are present. So if we are constantly in pursuit of pleasure are we missing the lessons of the present moment? I know I was. Repeating the same cycle expecting a different result. The definition of insanity. It was not until I decided to sit in meditation with pain that I discovered my middle way of moderation. My wave-like pattern began to lose the wide edges giving rise to a much more narrow frequency. Meditation and yoga were at the core of this inner revelation. 

Learning to breathe through the discomfort of yoga poses allowed me to learn to breathe through the discomfort of the low points of feeling. The anger and frustration quieted, giving rise to joy, peace and love. Meditation opened my third eye to a world of thoughts of chaos and disarray. An internal world of programmed ways of thinking afforded to me with the best of intentions. I came to embody the concept that the “road to hell is paved with good intentions” in my darkest hour. The lowest feeling frequency sine wave I had ever experienced. A victim of my own doing for not expanding earlier when the lesson was first offered by life. 

I often tell clients “pick your pain or your pain will pick you.” The pain of sitting still offers a reward like no other. The reward of longevity. A paradox I have come to learn is that life is short yet I must make the most out of it. This duality reminds me that while our time is finite, it's also filled with endless possibilities. The fleeting nature of life challenges us to prioritize what truly matters, to embrace each moment with intention and gratitude, and to pursue our passions and dreams without delay. 

A holistic approach to life is about the long game not immediate gratification. Raising my vibration each day means I set a new baseline dopamine level higher than the day before. Avoiding those rapid rises and falls in dopamine and vibration allows my system to slowly adapt to a higher level of conscious behavior. One that embraces a growth mindset to be curious and caring. One that embraces the differences between us as the beauty of being human. One that loves without condition so that I may love myself without condition. This is the best I have felt within my entire life. Hard for me to argue with the way I feel. 

As I continue to thoroughly embrace my journey I am grateful for every present moment experience I have ever had. Good, bad, who knows, as each has helped to sculpt the masterpiece that God intended me to Be. Seek within you the peace and serenity of recovery from the rat race of material possessions valuing your greatest possession, the gift that is your life. In the end, your love for yourself and life will be all that matters.